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Boundaries are Self-Care

Do you know your limits?

The Cult of Productivity is powerful and if you don’t set strong boundaries you’ll end up burnt-out. But how do we set boundaries when the expectations for getting a job and earning tenure are constantly growing?

The first step in setting boundaries is to start with yourself. You have to know your limits. How many hours can you devote to your dissertation in a day and still be a functional human being? How many coffee meetings with colleagues can you really afford? Do you really want to review this article, or are you doing it out of obligation?

I became a professor in part because I wanted to help people and be a positive force through my teaching and research. If you’re like me, you can probably relate to that feeling and you probably struggle with feeling guilty or selfish when you have to say no to someone or an opportunity. But if you’re going to organize your life in a way that supports your mind, body, and spirit – you have to learn to prioritize yourself. Your time and energy are valuable. Setting boundaries can help you conserve both.

Schedule and Defend Self-Care

A good place to start is by looking at your weekly schedule. What’s on it? What’s missing? If you’re like me it probably includes a bunch of work-related tasks with a few personal items interspersed (I will go to the grocery store today). If you’re going to get good at self-care, you need to include it in your schedule. Many academics fiercely guard our writing time, but we get flimsy when it comes to self-care.

This week, you’re going to start small. Add one self-care item to your weekly schedule and defend it. It may be something that you’re already doing – the important thing is to get it on your schedule. It could be a walk around campus, an afternoon coffee break, or 10 minutes of listening to music before your next meeting. Whatever it is, write it down and do your best to stick to it.

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What is Self-Care?

Bubble baths and fancy chocolates are nice, but there’s so much more to self-care.

Let’s start by satisfying our critical-academic voices: self-care is commodified; self-care is performative; self-care is privileged. Now we can move on.

In workshops, I teach that self-care is organizing your life to support your mind, body, and spirit. This involves establishing sustained practices to promote wellness and developing techniques that mitigate emergent situations and stress. This includes the feel-good things, like the bubble baths and chocolates, but it also includes adulting-things like doing the laundry and paying your bills.

If you are reading this, you are probably good at taking care of yourself. So let’s take a moment to celebrate all that you’ve done today to support your mind, body, and spirit. But, if you’re like me you may find yourself feeling stressed out and grumpy in spite of your best self-care efforts.

Self-care involves practical things like knowing your limits and setting boundaries. It includes moving your body (for fun!) and eating well. Personally, yoga, meditation, and journaling are major parts of my self-care regimen. In the coming weeks, we’ll talk about intentional adaptation – learning how to coast when we can. To adapt we may need to let go of expectations, and that’s okay! You won’t be alone in this, we’ll be building community along the way. And let’s be honest, self-care is hard and sometimes you deserve to treat yourself.

I’m excited to share my favorite self-care practices with you and pick up a few tips from you as well.

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You Should Be Resting

Self-Care tips, practices, and inspiration for academics.

The modern-neoliberal university is insatiable. More students. More publications. Unlimited service. It’s easy to see why so many of us are burnt out. I believe there is another way and I invite you to find it with me.

Each week, I’ll share my favorite self-care tips and practices via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and the occasional blog here.

These practices will be geared for the academic context, but everyone can benefit from them. I’d love it if you joined me, check the links below to find me on your favorite social network.

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